Why is it that when a couple of autistics speak out about the toxic behaviour of autism parents, they feel vilified. They feel as if (correctly) they are to blame, but they flip the narrative and we are the bullies?
This is business as usual and I have seen this narrative play out countless of times already in my 2 years of autism advocacy.
It goes like this:
- Autism parent posts pictures or harmful message online
- Autistic notices the message and tweets about it
- Other autistics tweet their opinion on the message
- Other autism parents come to the aid of autism parent and even defend the harmful behaviour
- Autism parent tweets how hurtful actually autistics are and even doubts our diagnose because we can tweet (twittertistic has been uttered before).
One of my first acts as an advocate was, when I noticed this narrative play out again and again, was write a couple of posts. First was a letter to autism parents.
When autism parents post pictures of their kids or write articles about them it makes my skin crawl, this is why I wrote this post a while ago.
My style is more of the cynical humouristic way when I get in the flow of writing, so here is a dissection of why I think these parent cults prevail
This post is becoming a compilation of my writings about autism parents and why they should finally shut the fuck up and let us autistics do the talking for once. This last post is rather recent and is titled: speaking is silver.
I will quote the main point of that post as a closing statement to this post:
“It is now 80 years since autism was first diagnosed and it is now our turn to speak.”