I love writing and thinking about analogies to explain difficult concepts into more easier to grasp things. In this case, you can actually grasp it.
Take a coin. I don’t matter what coin it is. Just take it. I have hear with me, also a coin. A coin with autism on one side, and a person on the other. Let’s say they minted a coin for autism awareness day.
Can you take the autism out of the coin? Can you take it off? No, it’s a feature of that coin. It was minted that way. The same way a Kennedy half-dollar is a Kennedy half-dollar because it has kennedy on one side and half dollar on the other. The kennedy part is a feature of that coin, otherwise it would be a different half dollar (not less, just different).
What would you need to do to take the autism of the coin? You will have to drastically reshape it. You will have to disfigure the coin to get the autism off. I know a way: you can remint it. You can destroy this coin and remint it as something else. You can also take a file and take the autism off that way.
How would you refer to that coin? They show you the coin? You work with the coin. Would you keep referring to it as the coin with autism? Or would you refer to it as the autism coin or autistic coin? Let’s say it’s a half-dollar with autism on one side and has the actual value of a half dollar. Would you ask if you could pay with it, thinking it was less, because it has autism on one side?
Put the coin with the autism side down. This is a theory of mind exercise, see if you can do it. Does the coin still have autism because you can’t see it? Do you see that not every coin has a little bit of autism? Every half dollar has the same value, yes. But not every half dollar has autism strapped to it’s back, does it? Not every coin is even minted the same year.
Every coin is valuable, like every person is valuable.